If you feel low, discouraged, stressed, overwhelmed, anxious, too anxiously excited, in a negative vibe of comparison, I invite you to move your mouse up to that little red x in the corner of your screen. You should only be reading or viewing things that positively inspire to be a better you. Your researching how you can dive into really learning how to cook, by all means read about how she became successful at it. If you're sizing your weakness to her strength, then you may want to look towards a subject of your own.
The key to embracing your chaos
Our personalities should meld into what we do. Characteristic traits, pet peeves, likes, dislikes, talents, hobbies, passions, motivations. We are each an individual. When that will consistently seep into my every day being, I do not know but what we should focus on is this: If we are worried we are not good enough, then we simply have not looked deep enough into ourselves. I'm a mommy who loves building forts but hates to cook. My kids light up when they see something I've created just for them, and yet I still slice them apples and hand them a bag of baby carrots. Mommy down the street is in a position in her life where it's necessary for her to work full time but she comes home and reads to her children every single night. Her passion is books and her kids will be all the more grateful because of her. They will grow up feeling her love for them. So will the kids with the chef mommy. Their memories will be filled with constant instruction and guidance over a mixing bowl and familiar scents will carry memories through a lifetime. A hatred for wet bathroom floor mommy may pass on thoughts of anger when they splashed too much.. An annoyance for high pitch screaming mommy may remind her kids that mommy wasn't so rosy when they got too loud. Exactly what works for one woman does not and will not work for another. They may hate my cream of celery casserole but they love my chocolate chip pancakes. They may hate my method for combing out tangles but they love when we snuggle up with a disney movie and hot chocolate. Comparison can kill. It can distort our worth in a sense that your throwing so much of your effort at what you think you need to master that your not refining the nitch that God gave you. Focus on your strengths. The things that make you shine. My house is a mess, we're using Tupperware lids as plates tonight but we played. Oh did we play. They will remember the fun, not the spotless home. They will hold on to the memories of tickles and smiles more than they will shining countertops. "Excuse the mess, children are making memories." "This is our loose interpretation of clean." "Our house was clean yesterday, sorry you missed it." Since most of us have some variation of such phrases displayed in our home, as if we are trying to explain ourselves to spur of the moment visitors, for living.. I say we take them down and stop apologizing to each other for existing on this imperfect world. We simply cannot do it all and it's unfair to ourselves to even expect something even close to that. Play with your babies today. Have your older ones help you with the chores by making a game of it, then let them choose the activity when it's done. Life is a blessing and our happiness is closer than we may think.
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